This letter is in response to http://www.chetanbhagat.com/columns/home-truths-on-career-wives/ if you haven’t read the article kindly click the above link and read it to understand the context of my deep concern.
I read your article on
woman working woman. Unintentionally though as it was shoved onto my face(book) thrice. Not once or twice but thrice so you can well understand that even I who is busy making phulkas all day took notice and read it to see what the fuss was about. Since then I lay sleepless all night in the worry that I could be raising a mollycoddled child. Who better to consult regarding aforesaid issue than you, since you understand a child’s psychology so well.
Below are my concerns
What are its symptoms?
You see after I read your knowledgeable article I have become one crazy woman looking for clues in the way he behaves. He seemed normal. But then who am I to judge? I am not exposed to world much. I go down to the park sometimes when I am not busy making phulkas or mollycoddling my baby. I meet many stay at home mommies and their kids. All seem normal. Yes they cry when they fall down. Demand an ice cream sometimes. Hug once in a while. Run. Climb. Slide .Jump. you get the hang? So kindly explain how the child who I see coming out of the day care in the evening would do better than mine? I am worrying myself sick!
Will he suffer from the mollycoddle complex all his life?
What is its diagnosis? Will my “mollycoddled” do better if I start working?
I know I might not be able to find a job as I cannot relate much to organizational issues. But still something. Lets see…ummmm…what do I know? * rubs her chin, itches her head* oh I know! making phulkas!!! Oh speaking of phulkas…why are you so obsessed with them. Is it because of some traumatic incident that happened to you during your
neglected not so mollycoddled childhood? Were you hit by a phulka on your head causing severe damage to your brain? Is that why you write such dimwit novels? Oh was that rude? What else do you expect from a worthless woman who cannot even suggest a good holiday destination to her family. *bangs her head with the rolling pin she is using to make phulkas* too many phulka jokes you say? No nothing like yours sir. Your article took them to a new level altogether.
I would be very glad if you could throw some light on the above doubts.
I have seen cocktail though, Can I call that an accomplishment in my petty ignorant life? Its not like you think chetan jee!. Meera too, like Veronica, is modern independent working woman, parties, dances and is not bound by social taboos.( Doesn’t she refuses to go back to her husband? Remember?). Its just a matter of falling in love.
And can you help me understand why are you referring to woman as an asset? Isn’t asset something a person owns? You got to work on elaborating on your vocabulary though.
A spouse who understands office politics and can give you good advice can be an asset.
PS: Women empowerment is not about supporting selectively its about letting woman embrace her faith and her beliefs. Its not just about treating woman as equal to man but also treating all women equally without involving your biases and expectations! I am proud to be a woman brought up by a housewife!